Communication is an essential skill in any industry in order to be an effective individual. Taking it up a notch, Jen De Plessis talks to Natalie Susi about the benefits of conscious communication in line with her work of creating a conscious culture. Natalie gives a preview of the steps and processes she developed to attain this level of communication. Also, understand why it’s necessary to give importance to the intention of your business or actions before you even think of goal setting. She takes the Coronavirus pandemic as an opportunity to have a mindset shift and teaches you to push through your personal ditch moments and reach your greater selves. Learn how to deal with triggers that could possibly lead to miscommunication and how you can find the lessons and gratitude within these experiences.
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Taking The Steps Towards Conscious Communication With Natalie Susi
We have a very special guest with us, Natalie Susi. I want to introduce her to you. She has more than thirteen years of experience as a teacher, a speaker, an entrepreneur, and a mentor. She’s a four-year UCSD professor focusing on communications and the Pursuit of Happiness. As an entrepreneur, she founded and grew Bare Organic Mixers beverage company for eight years resulting in an acquisition in 2014. Welcome to the show, Natalie. I’m glad to have you.
Thank you for having me. I feel blessed to be here. It’s beautiful to be with all of you.
If this is your first time joining us, welcome and thank you again for spending time with us here. Natalie, one of the things that I want to talk about is that you’re a corporate coach and a consultant as well for individuals and your company is Conscious Conversations. That’s what we want to talk about. The timing is perfect because at least where I’m at, you might be released in San Diego, but we’re not released yet here in Northern Virginia. In fact, we’re going to be confined. It’s important that we are communicating and helping all of those people around us, but also this is the time where people are taking a step back and saying, “Am I going to be an entrepreneur? Is this the sign I needed to take that leap to move into that new venture that I was thinking about?” There are a lot of moving pieces in everyone’s emotional state and I imagine you’d probably agree with that as well.
There are some things that I want to talk about and there are two of them. The first is about being unhappy in their life because this is where it’s saying, “I didn’t know I was this unhappy or maybe I feel unhappy because I’m now at home working.” I think for me, I always say this, “You have to slow down to speed up instead of speeding up to slow down.” What’s happened is everyone had to slow down and now it’s got their heads racing about, “What do I do now?” Someone’s in that unhappiness now, what are some strategies that you have and some thoughts on it? Why don’t we talk about thoughts and not about strategies? Some things that you could advise for people to start thinking about.
That’s a beautiful question or consideration. The first thing that I’d like to add around this moment in time that we’re in. We all know, accept, and believe on some level that what I call is a ditch moment. Our individual ditch moments, those deep dark challenging moments where you feel like you’re in a ditch and you don’t know how far down you are or how in the heck you’re going to get out of them. Life is a process of putting a process in place to get out of these ditch moments. We all know, accept, and believe that those moments lead us to our greater selves. We all on some level are like, “I get it that we buy into this idea that the darkness leads to the light and that these hard moments that we’d become heroes of these stories that we were once victims of.”
We say these things like, “If this thing would have never happened, this crappy situation or relationship would have never happened, I wouldn’t be where I am right now.” We’d become heroes of the story. This is a mindset shift that I’ve been using for the last couple of weeks. It’s like, “What if we’re all in having our own individual ditch moments collectively?” which is beautiful in some ways. We’re all going to level up and step into a lighter, brighter, more evolved versions of ourselves, which some people want to push back and say, “That’s great, but I’m unemployed. I’ve got kids at home and I can’t buy food.” I hear that. This is a mindset shift that you can use to move yourself for a second and build on to that for a little longer the next day. That’s the first step of the unhappiness in this piece.
It’s the recognition of it. I think what happens is when we’re in a ditch moment, we don’t think about the hero story. It hurts too much.We have to accept and believe that ditch moments lead us to our greater selves. Click To Tweet
That’s what I’ve been saying sitting in this corner. I’ve been in this corner several weeks, which has become my office space and that’s the thing I say to myself. I say, “This is a collective ditch moment. It’s going to lead to a collective ascension moment.” Why is that? That’s because this is a moment in time. We live in a universe that’s run by The Law of Duality. It states that love and fear, high and low, rich and poor are two sides of the same coin and what goes up must come down, and then the only constant is change. There’s no way around it. That is what it is.
Can we talk about the five steps of conscious reflection and manifestation that you’re talking about? I think people need some hardcore, what do I do specifically? Not just the philosophical piece of this, “I’m in a ditch, I’ll be out.” How do we get ourselves out for those that are in there? We all have ditches. We all have our own economic downturn, our own challenges all the time. What Natalie is going to be sharing with us is something that we can execute on and implement all the time. I want to make sure that we don’t have people just thinking this is part of a pandemic.
I love that you said that because this content, these steps, and these things I’ve created over the course of the last years when we had no idea what COVID was. It wasn’t even a part of our existence. I have a program called Creating a Conscious Culture. I help corporate culture and people one-on-one, and I do this with my students as well. This content I teach is in the corporate space, the academic space, and in the one-on-one space. There are two pieces of this program. There are the five steps to conscious reflection, which is a manifesting and intention setting process. Then there are the six steps to conscious communication, which basically gives people a really simple framework that they can use 24/7 in any communication situation with anyone in any area of their life. I know we’ve talked about both. What would you love for me to start with?
I want to start with the emotional perception first and then move into the actual communication because I want to talk to you about something a little different in that avenue.
Inside of the manifesting process and the intention setting process, in business, we talk a lot about goal setting. We said, “We want to get to this goal. I want to hit this number.” That’s all beautiful and that’s a part of it. What you have to do before you get to these goals and these numbers is understand what’s the intention behind this, because happiness doesn’t come from success. Happiness does not come from reaching the goal. I’ll tell you why. I teach a class called the Pursuit of Happiness. It’s a communications course. The foundation of the course is the six steps to communication. The theme of the course is Pursuit of Happiness. What we teach inside of that class is if you were looking, and this is going to sound airy-fairy woo-woo but I’ll tell you why it’s not. We have to find happiness from the inside out. The real practical reason why we find happiness from the inside out is because humans habituate to whatever situation they’re in. If you’re saying, “I’m going to feel happy when I make X amount of dollars,” which we’ve all done, including myself. When you make X amount of dollars, which is an external reality, it’s not inside yourself, you habituate because you are a human and that is human nature. You get there and you go, “What’s next?”
Never ever happy.
You never experienced the moment of happiness. That’s why Olympians when they win the medal, they are not happy. They’re depressed and they have to go through all that emotional turmoil. The reason why it’s important to go, “I understand. I’m going to know, accept, and believe that humans, we all abide by this thing where we habituate.” We get used to the circumstance. I got that. I can get that. Then let me now go to the next layer of like, “What makes me internally happy?” Part of that is understanding the intention, not the goal towards success, but the actual feeling and the vibration that you want to experience. It is all in the feeling of it.
I use different words but this is what I coach on. It’s the same kind of concept.
When you’re coming from that feeling and that intention, then the next layer is a five-step process. The first piece is, what is the intention behind this experience that I want to have? What is the feeling and the experience that I want to have and how do I come from that? A guiding question I have all my life all day long is, how do I come to this situation in any given moment from a place of love instead of fear? In the corporate space, I might say something like, “Coming from a place of appreciation or coming from a place of peace instead of chaos.” These kinds of terms when you’re in a corporation that you’re inside of.
What does that look like? Step one is assessing. What I do with clients is I say, “Let’s assess all seven areas of the wellness wheel.” Your mental, physical, spiritual, emotional, social, occupational, the seven areas of the wellness wheel. Give yourself a grade in each of those areas and we’ll go through each of those areas, but which one do you want to start with? Generally, people that come to me want to start with something in their relationship space or something in their social or occupational in this moment of time.
We’re assessing the seven areas of the wellness wheel. We’re giving ourselves a grade in each of those areas. We’re picking which area we want to start with now, and then we’re assessing these feelings. What is the intention? I have people visualize from a sensical perspective what does this area look like. If you’re looking for the perfect relationship, what does it look like, sound like, feel like, tastes like, smell like, and all of these senses around it? Then I have them visualize, go through that whole process of visualization. I have a certain set of sentences and formulas that I have them fill in from there, which I’m happy to share, whatever feels good to you. I don’t want to get too technical or too strategic but that’s where it starts. That’s the intention.
I agree with that. I’m going to paraphrase it too because you said, do I understand it? Of course, I do because I coach on this. For someone reading, they might go, “I don’t really understand.” I think for me where this comes in is that, I don’t want to go down a deep hole about me, this is about you. It is what truly fulfills you in life and how do you get more of it? It takes time to sit back and say what you truly want in life because people are not very clear about that. It could be as small as watching ants carry food because that’s something you love to do all the way to some kind of success that you have in your career. The idea is what fulfills you so that we can get clear on that so you can get more of it. Therefore, that leads to intention in everything that you do because it’s serving the opportunity to be able to get more of what fulfills you.
This is what I tell my students. I have a lot of these beautiful students that are super motivated, super driven, and they have these dreams of what success. They’d have that connection between success and happiness when they come in because many of us do. I say to them, “I get that you have these visions. You thought you were going to do this particular job forever, and that’s what you’re here for but do you really want to do that? Is that in line with your mission and your purpose?” The term I use in my role is a lightworker. If you’re a lightworker, if you’re a purpose-driven person on this planet, which everybody reading this is, you are raising consciousness with your work. You are a lightworker whether you resonate with that term or not. Call it whatever you want, but that’s what you’re doing on the planet. Every question, experience, decision that you make, filter it through that. Is it on mission? Is it going to fill me up? Is it going to satisfy me in the way that you’re saying?
The whole purpose of this show is, some people are moving from success to significance. Others are trying to be more significant. We’re all breaking through these glass ceilings all the time. This is just another breakthrough opportunity to say, “What makes me happy?” If you’re sitting home and you’re unhappy in your career, you’re unhappy in something, it boils down to taking a few minutes of time to assess what truly is going to fulfill you. Hopefully, that’s going to be helpful. I know that you’re giving a gift of helping people walk through some of this process.
When we go into the conscious communication, this is something that’s important. If someone is reading and I have three different types of people that read. People that are thinking about breaking through a glass ceiling or hitting that glass ceiling. Those that are in the midst of doing it and those who have already broken through. We want to speak to all of them in this relationship with people, the form of communication because each person is going through a different point in their lives where they might need to up-level their communication skills. Let’s talk about what’s important to you in that particular arena.We all teach best what we most need to learn. Click To Tweet
The first thing that I’ll say is we are all walking, talking communication billboards 24/7. Unless you’re in four white walls and no phone, you’re communicating to people who you are, what you believe in, what you want them to believe in about you, what you’re selling in a totally authentic way. I don’t mean that you’re always pitching things. We’re doing this all the time. The six-step process was created to give people a framework that’s super easy that they can run through and consciously use to navigate something that they’re doing 24/7 already. I’ll run through the steps with you. It’s practical and you can utilize it.
The first step of navigating a conscious conversation and the whole purpose of conscious conversations is to create authentic, genuine win-win connections with everybody, all the time, in all areas of your life. If you’re reading this and you’re like, “How am I going to utilize this?” I would encourage you. When I do these kinds of speaking things, I always say to people to pick one person or one situation where you’re like, “If that would have went differently, my life would look different.” It gives you that crunchy, stressed out, hunch in on yourself. When you think about this person, this communication with a particular person, or that situation that just haunts you, maybe you have regrets around it where you could’ve, would’ve, should’ve done something differently. We all have those.
I have it from many years ago. It’s following me. It’s like a little ball and chain.
If you want to share it, I’m here to open. I don’t know how public you want to be about it. I always tell people, just think about it, write it down so you can get into the feeling around it. You can feel how this might help you. I always say too that we all teach best what we most need to learn. The reason I’m healthily obsessed with this content, the reason I teach it and I’m so passionate about getting it out into the world is because I struggled with it. I’m very pained by situations that feel like communication’s been off. We all are into some degree.
It’s a six-step process. The first three steps is where you assess the information. The last three steps is where you make decisions. Pick that person, pick a situation, and have it in your mind. I want you to consider that if you were in that situation again, step one would be asking yourself the question, “What is my message, mission or goal here?” To understand that too, you want to remember that we all look at life through our own life lens. It’s like a permanent set of glasses that we wear and they are colored for our particular life. We all come to the table with our own set of experiences based on our family, our past experiences, our DNA, our genes and all of those things.
The first step is assessing what’s my message here? What’s my goal? What’s my mission? The second step is saying, “I got what mine is. What is theirs?” If I put myself in their shoes or I put on their set of life lenses, what’s their message, mission or goal? Step two is where I love to play. It’s where I love to talk. Step two has three different pieces to it. To be very simple here, we want to assess when we’re looking at someone else’s life lens, how do they learn best? How do they feel most loved and appreciated and how do they feel most triggered? This is the kind of stuff that if I’m working with you in corporate or one-on-one, I can help you navigate all this stuff.
What kind of trigger are you talking about, a positive or a negative trigger? Are you triggered to do something good or it triggers you to break down communication?
What is going to trigger this person to go from 0 to 10 right in front of my eyes and I have no idea how it happened? When someone gets triggered, it triggers the root of all the miscommunication and the communication getting wonky. If they got triggered and now, they can’t communicate. They halt communication or they’re angry in their communication. Basically, they’re coming from a place of fear instead of love because you’ve triggered a core wound and inner wound something that’s caused them to go from 0 to 10. They’re unconsciously reacting to you instead of proactively being engaged with you. It’s where everything gets messy.
When I get triggered, my tendency is to go negative. Not in the conversation. Instead of going from 0 to 10, I’ll go from 0 to negative 10. I’ll clam up. I shut down because of a fear issue. I don’t like confrontation so I just rather shut down. My husband who’s Italian and I’m German. I’m that slow roller coaster that takes forever to get to the top, but when it does, watch out. He’s constantly triggered. We’ve been married for many years but sometimes it’s funny because if there’s a trigger moment, he’ll go wildly ten and I’ll go wildly negative ten, and then we don’t talk for a couple of days.
I’m Italian as well. My dad is right off the boat and this is what would happen to us too. We would clash and then pull back. It’s similar. Italians are very expressive, emotive and passionate.
What is step three?
Step three is stressing context and setting. I always use dating as an example because it tends to be fun for people to think about it this way. This is how important context and setting affects everything. Consider what it looks like to go on a hiking date versus a cocktail date versus a dinner date versus a coffee date. Each of those contexts and settings requires a different conversation and clothes. They indicate different levels of commitment in your time and your money.
They happen at different times of day, which is an energy thing.
Assessing my message, assessing their message and assessing the context and setting gives you the information you need to start making decisions around how you communicate inside of a communication situation.
Going back to the one that I said 25, 30 years ago, I didn’t know the person well enough to know. I can’t really assess that one, but I can assess lots of communication with family members, coworkers where you have your own agenda. Tell us about that and how we would maneuver that in the workspace?Getting triggered is the root of all miscommunications. Click To Tweet
Maneuvering that comes back to step two and understanding people’s triggers and how they feel most appreciated. It’s all about energy. I was talking to one of my clients about this. She was having trouble with her boss. She started a new job and she’s an entrepreneur by heart and it’s challenging for her to be inside of a corporate space. She had negative heavy energy around it. She was feeling like her freedom was being taken away. That energy was being expressed unconsciously and probably consciously too.
Probably in her body language as well.
She was short with them. She was snappy. These kinds of things that didn’t make anybody feel warm and fuzzy or want to be around her. The simple fix is people want people around that make them feel good. How do you come from a place of love or appreciation? How do you find something to appreciate inside of this communication situation with this person? Even if it’s a very tiny thing and build from there and keep the energy around making that person feel valued, seen, heard, and not triggered.
One of the things I want to ask you about as it relates to that is, I was thinking about that person. It’s saying, “It’s a new job and she’s snippy and whatever, and it’s not her normal personality but all these feelings are coming out.” How is she going to be able to fix that first impression? I think that’s important too for people that are looking to make a transition in their lives. How do we fix that first impression or that tattoo that’s left on someone’s mind about who you are?
I think to get underneath that or to work around that is you want to get in a space of authenticity. I know that word gets overused, but I don’t believe it. I do use it all the time because I believe in that term. I think coming from a place of appreciation, finding that little thing to build from inside of a communication situation. Even if it’s gone off the rails and it’s gotten wonky or you’ve made a poor first impression, coming back into the space from a different energy, a different mindset, finding appreciation and giving that energy out changes things. People don’t want to dislike you generally speaking. Human nature is not to disconnect, it’s to be connected. Coming back to that natural, the state of a human naturally is that they want to feel good. They want to feel appreciated. They want to feel connected. How do I, in the most efficient and effective way, make this person feel connected to me and they are seen?
A colleague of mine Kerstin O’Shields, she’s a body language strategist. She talks about that as well. She’s talking about the fact that it’s all about, are you a mate or not a mate for me? Subconsciously that’s what everything is. Am I attracted to you or am I not attracted to you? It’s not even just the sexual piece of this, but it’s a law of attraction between humans. The very first impression is, am I attracted to you or am I not attracted to you? The way that you communicate either push or pulls me in that direction of attraction.
This stuff doesn’t actually have to be complicated. This framework, it’s been taught in rhetoric and writing classes for years. I’ve been teaching this stuff for years, but my students, my clients get confused about it. I said, “Let me put a simple framework around it. These questions you can ask yourself so everyone can utilize it.” Consider how much of our collective consciousness would look different if we knew how to communicate.
That’s what’s happening in COVID.
COVID is a challenging thing for so many reasons but in the communication space, it’s like everybody, when we come back to that cave person mentality like, “Who are we at the core?” The core, we run, we get in fight or flight mode when our survival is in question. Our survival is in question every day. We have uncertainty, we have a loss of power, uncertainty around our finances, our health and everybody’s experiencing it at the same time. Everybody is getting triggered at the same time and we’re all navigating these landmines all the time.
I feel bad for people who have kids at home too, including my son who has three children, my three grandkids. I feel bad because there’s no release. They worked from home all the time anyway, but they get a release to go someplace and go to the YMCA, which is funny because he’s a multimillionaire and they still go to the YMCA. The kids swim and they do all this kind of stuff that they have absolutely no outlet. I feel so bad for them because my conversations with him are short and quick.
I hope that this is happening for some people, but I get how it’s not possible or people don’t think it’s possible. It’s not part of their daily practice. Getting into a space where you take a couple of deep breaths. Breath is life. I know that people who are reading this were in a crappy mood. I have clients that look at me like I’m crazy, even though they’ve been working with me for a couple of years. I’m like, “I need you just to breathe. Let’s stop and breathe for a second.” They are like, “I don’t have time to breathe.” I get that. It shifts your energy. The reason why that is because we have an energetic bubble around us. We have something called a biofield, some people call it an aura. It’s scientifically proven. It’s not just some spiritual woo-woo stuff. When you are stressed, your field is wonky. It’s called incoherent and people can feel that. It’s how people say like, “That person is in a bad mood. I’m not going to go there.” Breathing creates coherency in the body, mind, your heart and your spirit. I can give you ten different facts around this stuff. It is not just spiritual woo-woo.
I know a lot of people don’t breathe and I used not to breathe. It is a funny thing because people are like, “I’m breathing because I’m not dead.” You have to take breaths consciously. It was from my chiropractor. He said, “One of the reasons that your neck hurts so much is because you’re not breathing.” What does that do? It exasperates the fact that I’m in pain and then how do I communicate. It rolls into many layers of that. If someone’s reading, what are some words that they can tell themselves or that they could help their partner or someone in the office to come down off of the cliff? What you were saying about the aura being off and crazy because people do run 100 miles an hour. What are some trigger words that would slow people down enough to realize and not be offensive so we can people and ourselves?
I was thinking like, “What are some sentences that I give people so that it’s super easy for the audience?” What you’re saying is let’s move back to step two. Let’s assess how they feel most valued and appreciated, how they feel most seen and heard, how they learn best, and how are they triggered. If someone is in front of you and you’re watching them go from 0 to 10 or 0 to negative 10. They’re spinning out, their aura is getting wonky, their communication is getting sideways. You want to take a deep breath because people also match and mirror that stuff unconsciously. You want to start behaving the way that you’re hoping this person starts behaving. What you want to avoid doing, and this is a tactic I use when I’m in a challenging situation is, I envisioned them as a child because what they are struggling with and spinning out on was created between 0 and 8.
It’s an adult habit, pattern and behavior that was created as a child. They’re in fight or flight mode. For some reason, they’re coming from a fear-based state. That’s why they are wonky. You want to think in your head, this person is scared and you want to imagine them as a child because it helps you find understanding and compassion. “This person’s coming from a place of fear. This is not about me. How do I look at them from a compassionate place?” You imagine their inner child. This sounds probably crazy, but it works.
Do you know why it makes sense? My Italian husband, he’s in the mortgage business, which I was in for many years. He gets so upset with people who don’t do their job. That’s the word he used all the time. “I wish people would do their job. I wish I could rely on them to do their job instead, I have to step in.” I know that his hero’s journey story, when you go way back, his dad had three tours of Vietnam and his mother was running around while he was gone. There are two years between him and his two brothers. He was seven years old and he was left to babysit his 5 and 3-year-old brothers all day and all night. He was in Hawaii. He says he remembers looking through those metal slats on doors and just wondering, “When is she coming home?” This is the first time I’m thinking about this. I love what you’re saying because I believe that his knee-jerk reaction to “You aren’t reliable. I can’t count on you,” that stems directly from back there.People don't want to dislike others. Human nature is not to disconnect, it's to be connected. Click To Tweet
It’s an old wound so it makes him go off instantly. He’s got no tolerance for it. I have those too from Italian stuff that I dealt with growing up. I know I can’t date somebody that triggers that stuff because it’s not a match. You don’t ever make him feel that way probably. It’s not a thing.
Rarely do I make him feel that way. That’s why our marriage is so long, but it’s everybody. Through our whole family or with my two kids, I’ll go, “Honey, what’s going on?” She goes, “Accountability, mom.” I know that she needs to breathe now. I go, “Breath, honey.”
That’s what I would call his life rule. That’s a rule that was created when he was little where he’s like, “I’ve got no tolerance for this stuff. I’m not navigating this stuff,” but it is one of his life’s journeys. It’s part of one of his life’s lessons. He’s continuing to experience it because he’s continuing to heal it, which is a beautiful thing. That’s what life is about.
I think he’s more in a position where, one of your problems is I’m frustrated at work, etc. It’s time for him to consider making a transition. He gets to that point where that’s never going to change.
I hear that too. There are other things you can do sometimes energetically, setting intentions to try, but this is the lens he’s looking at life through. That’s his experience of life. You’ve got to remove those certain things.
I have a question. Someone’s reading and they’re thinking about a change from success to significance specifically. I’ve got this job, it’s high powered, it’s not high powered, whatever the case may be. They’re looking to make a change, to make an impact in the world or they want to follow their passion and start a new entrepreneurial life. Knowing what your life rule is, knowing what they are, what are things that they could be doing to avoid having that same life rule and penetrate their new world?
What I would recommend with this is you want to write down, this is a lot of journal work. Because when you journal and you reflect, I know some people are into this, some people are not. You could do it as a recording or typing, whatever works for you. Don’t get in your head about it. The important thing is to sit down and write down for fifteen minutes without stopping. Do not let your pen remove or your hand removed from the keyboard and let your unconscious go with why you don’t like these situations anymore. Why you want to release them, why you want them out of your life and what you’ve learned from them. You find the gratitude and the lesson. Because when you find the gratitude and the lesson, it’s all energy and it all comes back. How do I come to this from a place of love, instead of fear? Everything comes back to that question. When you can come back to that and say, this is true for the people that frustrate you in your life that you don’t want to keep recreating to. When you can find the lesson and the gratitude in them, it disappears. It goes away because you’re changing the energy around it.
I would love to do that. I need to do that every once in a while too. I travel 2 to 3 weeks out of every month. I’ve been doing that for almost 6, 7 years. This is confining. I work from home but I come home for 3 or 4 days and I’m back on the road again. My whole world is turned upside down and I consider myself to be doing very well because I surround myself with people like you. I’m always talking to people that are uplifting and help me break through glass ceilings all the time. There are moments where I was like, “Am I going to cry? I feel like I’m going to cry, but I’m not going to cry. I don’t know how I feel.” Wondering why I feel this way because there’s nothing that I’m doing that’s any different other than the loss of control. I think that’s what a lot of people are contending with but I love that. It’s beautiful.
If you’re reading and you aren’t a scriber, I get that. Dictate it in the Otter app. If you dictate it, it also transcribes for you. You can go back and look at it because I think reading your words says a lot if you don’t want to scribe and type. I love that suggestion, Natalie. Thank you so much for offering that. I think to get to authenticity, you need to have appreciation. That’s the most important thing for people to get to that authentic place so that they can take action to make that move from success going into significance and breakthrough whatever glass ceiling that they have. Everyone can go to NatalieSusi.com. What would you like to leave us with?
I think that I would love to leave you guys with asking yourself that question of, how do I come to this situation in any given situation with everyone, from a place of love or appreciation, whatever word, gratitude, peace, calm, from this place to this place, whatever word resonates with you. The reason I keep bringing that up is because it is the guiding question. If you can keep moving from that one bucket into the love bucket, into the appreciation bucket, into the peace bucket, coming from a place of good intentions, I want to do good here. Knowing that doing that is going to make your life better. Getting that what you want is on the other side of that, what you personally want and individually want. Your life is going to start shifting, the lens that you look at life through and the experiences that you get to witness, see, and experience are going to shift. It’s just the way it works. If you can trust anything I’m saying, even for a moment, try it for the next hour, coming from a different place than you were. When you’re reading this, you will start to see magic and miracles happen. I promise you that that is the case.
It’s all about cleaning your lens. Do you have a quote or a mantra that guides you?
There are two. The first one is we all teach best what we most need to learn. Get yourself a break, step into the thing that you’re passionate about and that you love to talk about, and know that you had to learn the lessons the hard way because you had to teach it that way. The best teachers, healers, coaches, and therapists, all that stuff, they were brought to that for a reason. The other one is that happiness comes from the quality of your relationships and the quality of your relationships comes from the quality of your communication. Everything starts with communication. This is the line I would probably say the most. Every happy moment and every unhappy moment.
It’s been wonderful having you, Natalie. Thank you so much. For everybody who’s reading, what are you giving us anyway? What is it that we’re going to go look at and get?
If you come to the website, you can get a free coaching call and I also have that six-step process for people.
I would recommend before you get all that, to do some journaling, to get your head in the right space, to then have the call, because there will be more power in the call. I want to say thank you so much. I wish you the best as you’re going through. You’ve been in this little corner, you poor thing. As you’re going through this, on the other side of this, I have all the confidence in the world that people are going to need you. If you’re reading and you’re in the corporate world and you feel that Natalie could offer something to the culture and the communication of your company, please reach out to her as well. We don’t just want to think of this as individuals. We want to think of this as broader.
I love working with corporate. You can affect so much change when you work from that space.
I want to say thank you so much and thank you to everyone reading. I appreciate you coming here. I have much gratitude and encourage you to write a review and give us a rating and a ranking. If you’ve enjoyed this. I’ll catch you next time.
- Natalie Susi
About Natalie Susi
A former English and writing teacher, Natalie Susi founded Bare Organic Mixers after she was laid off in the CA budget cuts from her position as a teacher at San Diego State University.
In 2009, Natalie decided to explore the world of entrepreneurialism when she recognized a large gap in the marketplace for low-calorie, all-natural cocktails. She navigated the sourcing, bottling, manufacturing, and distribution process and created Bare Organic Mixers. In 2014, Bare was acquired by a leading natural foods company, and Natalie continued to work with the company as the face of the brand. Natalie and Bare were featured in some notable press outlets to include: Forbes.com (Top 10 Female Entrepreneurs to Watch in SD), Pacific Magazine (Top 30 Under 30) The LA Times, E! Online, People Magazine, and Bravo’s, The Millionaire Matchmaker.
In 2015, Natalie exited the company, so she could go back to doing what she loves, but this time the content she wanted to teach was much different than English literature. She returned to education with a unique experience of how to build a business with limited resources and no previous business education. Like so many other first time entrepreneurs, she spent 8 years learning all of the life lessons the hard way through her biggest failures and mistakes. During this learning process, Natalie became fascinated with human behavior and psychology and concepts in the personal development space like how to recognize your blind spots, how to overcome limiting beliefs, and how to get out of what she coins, a “ditch moment.”
Currently, Natalie combines her educational background as a teacher and her experience as an entrepreneur to provide personal development coaching and consulting to individuals, creative entrepreneurs, and businesses. She developed a program called Creating a Conscious Culture that can be utilized in corporate, academic, or personal one-on-one settings to guide people through a process of self-reflection, self-discovery, and self-improvement that raises awareness and consciousness and helps in Creating a Conscious Culture for all. Natalie is also a professor at the University of California, San Diego where she teaches a course called The Pursuit of Happiness, and she also teaches Entrepreneur Mindset for teens at SOUL Charter School.
Natalie’s ultimate goal is to help create a world where everyone has access to the principles and tools that will guide them in engaging in conscious reflection, conscious communication, and conscious creation, so they can learn, grow, and transform and create a ripple effect of positive impact for themselves, for their loved ones, and for the world.